The above is an amazing breakdown of the phases/stages of the journey to secure. I'm paraphrasing here but it generally follows as such...
1. Unconscious Insecurity
2. Conscious Insecurity
3. Conscious Security
4. Unconscious Security
And its REEEEAALLY important to know where you land when engaging with others.
What does this mean?
If you're at level 1 and 2, you are almost certainly still a slave to your attachment wounds and reactions.
At level 1, unconscious insecurity, you don't even know how insecure you are. You are literally unaware of the wound, and unaware of how these wounds effect your behavior. This means you are almost certainly REACTIVE vs. RESPONSIVE. This means the stories and beliefs your attachment wound has created are running the show, and its likely you'll be triggered by anything or anyone who hits your pain points in just the right way. You will be an endless train of emotional reaction.
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